Friendship isn’t just about whom you have the best times with. Real friendship is also about actions, behavior, care, trust, reliability, and maintaining relationships. As you meet more people and make more friends, you’ll realize that your true friends aren’t necessarily the ones you click with or laugh with the most, and you eventually reach a point where you know how to differentiate the true friends from the fake ones. Here’s a list of the best and worst types of friends:
Worst Types of “Friends”:
1. Generic fake friends
They never call you or make any effort to see you, they don’t even like any of your social media posts even though they see them, and they sure as hell won’t be there for you when you need them.
2. Fake sweet talkers
When you happen to talk or meet, they tell you they miss you and shower you with nice words… then the next day they disappear and don’t reply to your texts. They might also offer to help you out in something, but when you actually reach out to them regarding that matter, they disappear or apologize for not being able to help.
3. Jealous or envious friends
They’re always watching you from a distance, trying to downplay everything you say, do, or achieve. They try to sabotage your every moment of glory, no matter how small it is. They don’t enjoy seeing you succeed, reach glory, or get all the attention.
4. Friends who gossip about you
They talk about you behind your back… often negatively. These 2-faced hypocrites can’t be trusted.
5. 1-sided friends
If you don’t call them they don’t call you. You’re always the one who’s making all the effort to call, keep in touch, and keep the friendship alive. If it’s not reciprocal, ditch them. All relationships and friendships should be an equal 2-sided effort. If they don’t treat you the way you treat them, they don’t deserve your time or effort. This type of friend often falls into categories 1 & 2.
6. Friends who take you for granted
They don’t put too much effort into your friendship, and assume that they can disappear for a whole year then show up and ask you for a big favor.
7. Friends who only show up when they need something from you – a.k.a. “Type 1 Masla7jiyye”
They only talk to you when they need something from you, then disappear. They also fall into the previous category.
8. Friends who are just using you in some way – a.k.a. “Type 2 Masla7jiyye”
These are gold-digger types of friends. They’re only friends with you because they’re getting some kind of benefit from you. Perhaps they’re just friends with you because you’re rich, powerful, or because you know a lot of girls or guys who you often introduce them to.
9. Friends who keep competing with you
They can’t understand that you can both coexist and both be successful. They don’t understand that you don’t want to compete with them, and you’re not trying to take anything away from them. They often fall into category 3.
10. Fake friends who secretly wish you failure and have no problem stabbing you in the back
These are frenemies who just pretend to be friends because they’re not truthful, and don’t want to officially be classified as enemies for some reason. They’re the fakest, they’ve got issues, and they often fall into categories 3 and 9.
11. Selfish friends
They like to talk about their problems, but never want to listen to yours. They always ask for favors, but never do any for you. They only care about themselves and don’t really think about others.
12. Those who aren’t there for you when you need them
When you need them, they’re either busy, unavailable or they disappear, use some excuse, or just ignore your message.
13. Those who don’t return favors
These people are selfish and only care about themselves. You don’t want such people in your life.
14. Friends who change with time
You used to be best friends, but time, money, or a relationship changed them and they turned into someone different… so things are not the same with them anymore.
15. Friends who can’t keep secrets
You made a mistake and trusted them with a secret or some confidential information, but they betrayed your trust and couldn’t keep their mouth shut about it.
16. Friends who ask for overboard favors
They have no sense of what’s ok and what’s a bit too much to ask. They might ask you for ridiculous, annoying, or tedious favors. They often fall into the selfish category and don’t have any empathy for how others might think or feel.
17. Friends who are ALWAYS negative… literally always.
We all have days when we’re negative ourselves, but these friends are always complaining, nagging, and being negative. Not just every once in a while, but every time, all the time. They drain your energy and negatively affect you. They usually also never listen to your advice, and are always pessimistic.
Ok, enough negativity… let’s talk about the best types of friends now!
Best Types of Friends:
18. Friends who are always there for you
You might not necessarily see them or talk to them often, but they’re reliable and loyal, and will always be there for you if you need them. This is a personal quality, and you are sometimes surprised that people you didn’t expect to be like that turn out to be like that… which is awesome! Take care of them and keep them in your life.
19. Friends that even if you don’t talk to in a long while, when you talk or meet again, it’s as if you saw them yesterday
Perhaps they’re now living in another country, they’ve been super busy, or life circumstances brought you apart… but they’re still the same after all this distance and time. You’ve probably had some of the best times with these friends.
20. Friends who like you as you are
They won’t judge you, they know you’re not perfect, and they like you for who you are
21. Friends who can keep secrets
You can trust them with anything, knowing they’ll never backstab you or tell anyone else
22. Friends who understand that you got busy and don’t give you a hard time about it
These friends understand that people get busy sometimes. They won’t give you a guilt trip or a hard time for being away for a while. This “while” has to be reasonable though, and how you handle it makes all the difference… because you don’t want to turn into one of the bad friend types we talked about earlier.
23. Friends who even though know you’d do anything for them, don’t ask for overboard favors because they don’t want to annoy you
These friends are considerate, caring, nice people. They might sometimes be shy. They know you’d do anything for them, but they probably won’t ask for favors because they wouldn’t want to annoy you. If you feel like they might need a favor or something, go ahead and do it for them or ask if they need anything because they probably won’t be asking you.
24. Friends who support you when no one else does
Even if you decide to quit your current career and become a fortune teller, they’ll support you because they know that your decision will make you happy. They’re loyal and supportive. They’re your real crew. Keep them around and try to get their advice when you need it. Never forget that they supported you.
25. Friends who prevent you from doing stupid things
They truly care about you, they’re loyal, they sometimes assume the role of guardian angels, and they act like your eyes when you’re blind.
26. Friends who defend you behind your back
Loyal, brave, and ethical… this is the type of friend you need to keep. True friends.
27. Friends who stick with you at your worst
Very loyal, and they like you for who you are, no matter how you are. You need more of these true friends.
28. Friends who side with you against your enemies
These are the most loyal friends. They’re usually very ethical, and are quite rare. Keep them when you find them.
29. Friends who tell you the truth even if it hurts, because it’s what’s best for you
They are honest, and want what’s best for you. They won’t just tell you what you’d like to hear, because they know that you won’t lose any love for them if they give you a harsh reality check.
30. Friends you don’t know well enough, but you know are good people
You might not be close with that friend or know them well enough, but you know that he/she is a good person. Keep in touch, because you might get to know them better and become closer in the future, and will end up gaining an awesome new friend.
Notice how the bad types are more than the good types… Be careful whom you trust. Perhaps it’s time to reconsider some of your relationships and friendships. Life is too short to spend with the wrong people. Kick out all the bad friends from your life, and make an effort to make good new friends or rekindle and strengthen old friendships with good people. Never say no to an opportunity to make new friends. Cheers to all true friends reading this… you know who you are.
